Bad news.

[Serani]

I never know what kind of subject to put. Hell, I don't even really know where to begin.

I miscarried the baby today. Well, not exactly. First off, apparently, there wasn't really a baby. And secondly, I'm not quite done yet.

I considered just PMing everyone, but I figured this board is private enough and you're all my friends, anyway.

I didn't listed to all the technical stuff they were saying, but apparently, my body fooled itself into thinking it was pregnant. I went through the morning sickness, the exhaustion, my uterus grew, and a sack formed. But there was no baby in the sack.

Heck. I considered not really even saying anything, but I knew all of you knew about, and wished us well on, the baby, so I thought I'd tell you.

I guess I also want to get it out. Rubi's being amazing and incredible, though I know he must feel as sad as I do right now. He's an amazing support and strength. But typing it out to all of you guys helps, too. Moreso than just typing into notepad and saving it on a buried directory somewhere on my secondary drive.

We're still having the wedding next month. Saturday, August 24th. Invitations for those of you whose snail mail addy's I have will be sent out shortly. Please, please, if you're able to, come to the wedding. We have to put this behind us, celebrate our marriage and then try for more. So we would really appreciate having our friends there with us to help us do that.

I apologize if this is sounding short or garbled or if I'm babbling (if?). It's 10 pm, I spent 6+ hours in the hospital culminating in the bad news. So, I guess I'm not really myself right now.

Thanks for listening. And we'll be okay. It'll just take some time.

[Draknor]

I'm very sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and Rubi.

[Biaxin]

Hey,

My heart goes out to you both. To you, Serani, in particular. Pregnancy, as a concept, has a very personal aspect to it for the mother and to have that abruptly denied is a daunting personal experience. I'm sorry that you're having to go through that.

From my, admittedly, limited knowledge base of such things (I, pretty much, slept through my OB class, figuring I'd never have to do that stuff professionally, due to my gender handicap), I want to say that instances such as you describe are rather random events, as vice repeatable conditions. It's just something odd that occasionally happens.

Well, practice makes perfect, so, as soon as you both feel up to it, get back in there and practice.

[GravenStone]

My deepest sympathies to you both for the pain and uncertainty of this time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[attriel]

:(

[Shiz]

Kris and I are thinking of both of you.

[Aananla]

You both are in our prayers. I know how excited you both were about this. Your body must be trying to say its working and ready for when you are ready to try it again. Good luck guys.

[DinbinFanfoom]

You have my sympathies, guys. :( :(

[Greebo]

Oh no! I'm very sorry Katy. I know how excited you were.

You both are definately in our thoughts and prayers. *HUGS*

[Asharad]

I'm so sorry to hear that.

I know there is nothing any of us can really say to make you feel better. Just know that we all care about you both and are thinking about you.

[Caranthir]

*sigh*

I tend to avoid threads like these, since anything I say always feels inadequate.

You both have my condolences.

[Drax]

I am sorry for your situation. I hope, tho' I also know, that everything will work out for the best for you. Have faith.

Both you and Rubi and your family are in my prayers.

mike

[Reijas]

I am so sorry Serani and Rubi. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

/hug Serani and Rubi

[Raveneye]

My condolences to both of you. If there is any silver lining to a situation like this, it is simply the bond that strengthens between two people who share such an experience.

Since you're both otherwise healthy and plan to get married soon anyway, you can hopefully try again with more successful results (and a bit more planning I'd assume :wink: ).

[Greebo]

Since you're both otherwise healthy and plan to get married soon anyway, you can hopefully try again with more successful results (and a bit more planning I'd assume :wink: ).
Tut tut, shame on you for going there! This is the...erm...zeros!

[Raveneye]

Tut tut, shame on you for going there! This is the...erm...zeros!

Hey, you don't gotta tell me, I've been there and done that. Most 31 years old's with 11 year old children didn't go about it the most socially acceptable way...

I didn't mean to imply there was anything wrong with the situation, just that now they have to opportunity to obsess over every detail as only a happily newlywed couple can! :wink:

[Barrack]

Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. Biology can be a strange thing some times.....


Well, I guess you could consider this practice.

[Sagar]

An Undress Rehersal?

Hey! Don't knock it. Undress rehersals can be the BEST! :D

[Serani]

I can't thank everyone enough for your words of kindness and support. And your humor.

I've stopped crying most of the day now, though the hurt will never completely go away. There'll always be that thought that lingers. Though I'm sure it will lessen considerable when I hold our first child in my arms for the first time.

A lot of what helped me get through the weekend and my D&C yesterday was you guys. Often times over the weekend your words and caring caused the tears to start again, but it was good for me to let it out. And I had Rubi to hold me up and help me feel better about it.

Now I'm home, giving my body a chance to heal. I'm anxious for it to do so, so that I can get back to as much of a normal life as possible. My wedding dress is almost done (I'm making it for those that don't know) and the wedding is coming along nicely. I'm looking forward to seeing as many of you here as can get here and in the mean time I'll be busy with the planning and organizing.

So thanks again. Your friendship means more than many of you can know.

*Hugs*

Katy & Joe

[DinbinFanfoom]

A lot of what helped me get through [...] my D&C yesterday was you guys.
Yeah, I get that a lot. :lol: :lol: :lol:
Sorry. I was aiming at levity. :oops:

[Sagar]

Uhm.. I don't get it.

/em wanders off looking confused

[DinbinFanfoom]

Uhm.. I don't get it.
/em wanders off looking confused
Maybe I should have just quoted the part that I did and added a bunch of :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: 's

[DinbinFanfoom]

Serani, please please please reply to the effect that I haven't offended you. :( I was just joking at an awkward and inopportune time. Such is the curse of manliness...

[Serani]

Serani, please please please reply to the effect that I haven't offended you. :( I was just joking at an awkward and inopportune time. Such is the curse of manliness...

Hey, no worries. :) :) I'm not offended in the least. I've been back and forth in front of the PC, laying down some and working on my wedding dress.

I'm not upset at all, Din. :)

*HUG*

[Shiz]

A quick *FWIP* chases the blues away as well.

[Sagar]

A quick *FWIP* chases the blues away as well.

is that how they start the undress rehersals?

[Serani]

A quick *FWIP* chases the blues away as well.

is that how they start the undress rehersals?

Oh, yeah! And I can't wait for that first FWIP...